The Chiropractor and Relief of A-fib

For the past few days I've been going in and out of A-fib - not major episodes, but enough to make me tired all the time and uncomfortable enough that I didn't want to do much other than sit around. While I do a lot of things from the computer, I also need to be mobile.

I decided over the weekend I was going to call the chiropractor. I've had good luck with this before, and hadn't been in months because of being occupied with other things. Fortunately, they could get me in at lunchtime today.

I'd been in a-fib pretty much constantly for a day and a half. He worked on me and my heart rate converted immediately. While I was on the table. Coincidence? Maybe. Regardless, I made another appointment for next week.

You can read more details in my earlier post at: http://www.blog.patsyterrell.com/2011/07/acupressure-and-fib.html

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National Festival Coming to Manhattan

This is really cool... If you love to bake bread, you should enter!

Here's the press release with info: 

National Festival of Breads to Land in the Little Apple

MANHATTAN, Kan. - America's only amateur bread baking contest will make its home in Manhattan, Kan. on June 22, 2013. The National Festival of Breads, sponsored by King Arthur Flour, Fleischmann's Yeast and the Kansas Wheat Commission, celebrates the relationship between farmer and consumer and highlights the art of baking bread at home.

The biennial competition, which seeks the best bread recipes from home bakers throughout the United States, is adding a Youth Category to this year's contest that is open to amateur youth bakers ages 12 to 17 from all over the nation. The adult competition is open to amateur home bakers ages 18 and up.

"Baking is an activity that can be used at all ages for positive experiences, learning and a feeling of accomplishment," says Cindy Falk, nutrition educator at the Kansas Wheat Commission, and contest coordinator.

Adult competition categories include Ethnic Breads, Rolls, Time-Saving Breads, and Whole Grain Breads. Judges will vet all entries and select eight adult finalists, each of whom will receive airfare to and accommodations in Manhattan, to participate in national competition events June 20-22, 2013.

In addition to the eight adult finalists' awards, four special awards will also be given for the best recipes using particular ingredients such as white whole wheat flour, cranberries and raisins. Each special award winner will receive a $500 cash prize.

Youth categories will include Rolls and Whole Grain Breads. One Youth Grand Prize Winner will be selected from the entries and will receive an invitation for them and a guardian to attend the National Festival of Breads to demonstrate their winning recipe.

"Inspiring youth to bake can foster future generations of home bakers," says Falk. "These youth bakers can then pass on their baking skills as a service to local schools, communities and clubs."

Contest finalists will bake their recipes on site in Manhattan on Saturday, June 22, 2013. Judging will be based on taste, originality, ease of preparation, healthfulness, and appearance. In addition, each finalist will receive a $500 cash award, as well as a Wheat Harvest Tour in the Heartland and a visit to a working Kansas wheat farm, flour mill and grain elevator on Friday, June 21.

One adult contestant will emerge as the 2013 National Festival of Breads champion and earn a prize package worth nearly $5,000, including cash, an expense paid trip to a King Arthur Flour Baking Education Center in Norwich, Vermont and a year's supply of Fleischmann's Yeast.

Beginning Sept. 1, 2012, amateur bakers can begin submitting original recipes towww.nationalfestivalofbreads.com. A secure, easy-to-use form is available for bakers to enter recipes online; submissions will not be accepted by mail, fax, e-mail or phone. Original bread recipes must be submitted using the online entry form by 11:59 p.m. (CT) on Thursday, January 31, 2013. No purchase is necessary to enter or win.

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What Are You Willing To Spend Yourself On

Each of us has only so much time, energy, money and other resources to spend. How we spread them around indicates what we truly value.

But, beyond these things, there's the idea of our self - our very core being - our essence. What are we willing to give that to?

I've been thinking about this a lot the last few weeks. What am I willing to spend myself on? I don't have a solid answer yet, but I suspect there are very few things that fall into this category. It's a high price to pay. However, the rewards can also be stellar.

Maybe I will surprise myself at the number of things I'm willing to spend myself on. Maybe I do it far more often than I realize. More thought and analysis is required.

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Farm Fresh Eggs

When one is gifted with farm fresh eggs, one must do something nice with them. I used some in making brownies for Creative Sisterhood. It seemed only right to share such a treasure.

Now I'm wondering if some should find their way into lemon curd. The mere thought of lemon curd with farm fresh eggs makes my mouth water.

Of course, then I won't be able to just admire them for their pretty colors.

All of life is a trade-off it seems.

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Decisions and Values

It's not hard to make decisions once you know what your values are.       

                 ---Roy E. Disney

I ran across this quote tonight and I'd never seen it before. It is so true. 

I have a reputation of being very decisive. Whenever people ask me how I can do that I reply that I have "Patsy's Top Ten Rules for Living," and they guide me on a subconscious - and conscious - level, so decision making is very straightforward.

For example, my number one rule for living is, "Seek. New people. New Places. New Ideas." So, when a friend called and asked if I wanted to go to Honduras, my answer was "yes, absolutely." I didn't need to mull it over. I knew the answer was yes. Only the details remained.

I always encourage people to come up with their own Rules for Living, those guiding principles that act as an internal compass. So far I don't think anyone has thought it a good enough idea to follow through on. But, I'm betting Mr. Disney would have agreed with me.

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Dr. Wayne Scott Anderson at Dillon Lecture Series

Dr. Wayne Scott Anderson spoke at the Dillon Lecture Series recently and he had some interesting things to say. He is associated with Medifast products, otherwise known as "Take Shape for Life." There are a number of people in Hutchinson who have done this diet, and some of those people are very evangelistic, which I find to be a big turnoff. My observation is that any diet involving meal replacements tends to work in the short term, and when people stop using the meal replacements they gain that weight back - plus some. It's the "plus some" that is the big problem in dieting.

Regardless, I went into the lecture with some "attitude" about the whole thing because people can be so pushy about it. And, it should be noted, that many of them are making money off convincing you about how wonderful it is, so I am suspicious of this.

But, I have to say, I was very impressed with Dr. Wayne Scott Anderson. He was not at all pushy about the product and just talked in general terms about health and weight loss. Frankly, I was surprised. I half-expected the lecture to be a "rah-rah" about this program, but it wasn't. He had some things to say that I thought were excellent points.

The main one that resonated with me is that he said for people to lose weight you have to help them overcome the psychological and logistical barriers of losing weight. He said one of the things about the meal replacements is that they remove the logistical barrier because people don't have to become nutritionists overnight. Frankly, he's the first doctor I've ever heard mention there's a psychological barrier to losing weight. I don't know that these things are the answer, but it was interesting to hear someone actually say that. And I can see that point about meal replacements. I just don't see how that works when you're not using them anymore.

I'm not on the bandwagon, but I had had some of the food from a friend who has used the diet, and it's not bad. I even ordered some to have for travel food. I have to say it's really great for when you're hungry and need a little something and don't have time to make something or find something. The first time I had it was before a concert with this friend and we didn't have time to eat. He produced some of the pretzels and although we were very hungry they held us for 2-3 hours. I was impressed with that.

I think Dr. Anderson may have also offered the secret in passing when he was speaking at the luncheon. He still uses the meal replacements - not that he needs to lose weight - but he uses them for convenience. Maybe that's key and people can keep using them indefinitely to keep the weight off. In the arena of making money off people, that's pretty darned convenient, too. But, of course, you have to eat anyway.

It was very impressive that he said during the luncheon that it didn't even have to be those meal replacements - that any would do that were nutritionally sounds. That is certainly not the attitude I hear from people who are pushing the diet locally. Of course, that wouldn't make them any money.

I've been paying careful attention to those in town who have done this diet and how their weight maintains over time. In general I'm seeing the same process as with any other diet - it comes back - perhaps more slowly than with other diets, but it seems to keep coming back.

Although I have no medical training, as a life-long fat person I could teach medicine a couple of things about weight loss, but no one wants to listen to the people living it. I've tried - with MDs and psychologists since I was in my early 20s - to explain it's not physical but mental. Every fat person you know can tell you the calorie count of any food off the top of their heads. It's not a lack of knowledge. It's not a lack of willpower. We understand the equations involved of calories in and calories out - fat does not make us stupid.

What we can't get you to understand is that all the solutions you're offering are not addressing the real issue, which is beyond "life style change" and "diet" and such. But, either you won't listen to us or - what I've come to believe is more likely - you don't care. No other medical advice is offered that has the tremendous fail rate of dieting. If 90% of the time when you set a bone the bone was still broken when the cast came off, we'd stop doing that.

It seems there would be a tremendous financial advantage in figuring out a real solution - and Medifast, Jenny Craig and the others - are taking their piece of that pie. But, unfortunately, real pie will most likely beckon people back to their old ways and weight. Until someone creates a real solution, the cycle is set. But we need someone with some medical training who actually cares about doing that, to find a real answer. So far that person hasn't been born, it seems.

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Tea in Newton on a Sunday Afternoon

Sunday I had a wonderful time speaking at a tea in Newton. It was hosted by the First Presbyterian Church. They invited ladies from some other churches, too, so they could have time to visit and enjoy time together.

This is the epitome of what tea should be - a time for conversation and enjoyment. That is what I love about tea - it's not the drink, it's the experience.



That said, I'm never unhappy to see scones on a table!



The ladies did a nice job of putting things together, and I loved speaking with their group. I was the program and did a talk about Food Traditions. I really enjoy that. I hope to do more presentations in the near future. A fun way to spend an afternoon.

Thanks to the ladies of the First Presbyterian Church of Newton for the invitation!

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Plants Will Grow... Something I Seem to Forget

Well, you knew I couldn't resist for too long. I bought some plants today, including this beautiful, delicate-looking little thing. I love it.

And, amazingly enough, it's already in the ground - not just sitting in a cardboard box on the porch where things sometimes remain for a day or two until I get them planted.




I bought a few things today - just a few.

I'm trying very hard to not overplant this year - like I do every year.

I seem to forget that plants grow, and I crowd them all in, too close together.

But, today I resisted.

See how there's lots of empty space between the plants. I'm on the right track.

However, this will fail.

And this is why...



Yes, I know I'm pathetic. You need not point it out.

Sigh...

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Taxes, taxes and more taxes

I'm always inspired to do taxes on about January 8. Of course, I have none of the materials then. By the time they arrive a few weeks later I have lost all interest in the process.

Unfortunately, here on April 17, the day they are due, none of that desire has yet returned. I have been buried in getting my taxes done. I'm almost there.

I have decided I hate doing taxes far more than paying taxes. I don't even really mind paying my share. But I sure don't like the paperwork of preparing them. I think I need to find a nice friendly accountant, although I suppose I would still need to have everything organized. And it's that process that is so difficult.

Oh well... I suppose I will manage.

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Storms

It has been a long day in Kansas, with tornadoes springing up all over the state. We have been very fortunate in Hutchinson, where I live. Although there have been storms to the north, south, east and west of us, it have been pretty calm here. In fact, we've barely had any rain. All around us people have been pummeled with hail, wind, tornadoes and other difficulties.

If you can spare some positive energy for those affected, that would be appreciated. So far there are no fatalities reported, which is amazing. I hope it remains that way.

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Thank You Notes

I received a lovely thank you note today from Guy, who was the Taste of Home Cooking Show host. It was such a nice surprise.

Thank you notes are so rare anymore. I still like to write them, but the last time I was inspired to write one I couldn't locate a physical address to send it to. Our world has definitely changed. I ended up having to send an email, which lacks the same thrill.

Getting real mail is something I miss. My mailbox generally holds bills and magazines these days. I'm annoyed by the bills because I pay everything online and they're wasting paper sending me statements. The magazines have piled up lately without me finding time to enjoy them fully.

So it was a real treat to pull an envelope out of the mailbox with my name handwritten on it, and find a handwritten card inside. I'm sure it takes him a considerable amount of time to write notes to everyone who helps him. He does multiple shows in a row, and has 5-6 helpers at each one. He even included a mention of something indicating he knew who I was. Very impressive.

Those things do still matter. In fact, they might matter even more these days.

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Vintage Hankies

The last couple of days multiple people told me about vintage hankies in the window of a thrift store in a neighboring town. This afternoon I finished a project earlier than I had expected and decided I could allow myself a treat. So, I headed out to the thrift store.

There were some difficulties - they didn't take debit cards and I didn't have enough cash with me. I was within walking distance of two banks - both were closed. Eventually I had to get in my car and drive around the block to go to a drive up ATM and then pay an extra $2.50 for the honor of getting my own money. I decided this was the cost of my lesson to carry some blank checks with me. As soon as I find some, I'll do that. (Who uses checks anymore? Who uses cash anymore for that matter?)

Anyway, I was motivated. And I got all my pretties.

In the process, I met someone who reads my column in Kansas Country Living. (It was nice to meet you, Annabeth!) I also found some other treasures including some orange carbon paper. That will be in an art project before long I'm sure.

It was a nice little break. Now I must get back to my projects. But, I had to share some of the pretties with you.

Often while I am holding hand fulls of hankies, doilies, dresser scarves or other vintage linens someone will ask me, "What do you do with them?"

The answer is, "I just love them."

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Ideas Swirling

Ideas are swirling in my brain these days. Meanwhile, projects that are due in the next few days are occupying my energy. That seems to be when ideas swirl the most. Why is that? It seems counter-productive.

In the midst of all of these things, I'm trying to get some projects around the house done. I'm never sure if that's because I'm motivated or because I'm avoiding. Either way, I now having a working garbage disposal in my kitchen - something I've not been able to say for awhile. This is my third one since I've lived here. I did not spring for the "best" one this time. It lasted about a week past its warranty, just like the "good" one. Apparently this is something I simply have to replace regularly so there's no point in spending extra money on it. Who knew disposals were disposable?

Did I mention my taxes are not yet begun?

I would just file an extension, but you need to pay what you owe when you do that, and I'm not sure how I could possibly know what I owe without doing my taxes, in which case I could just send the completed taxes instead of the extension form. I anticipate sleeping will not be something I do much of until after April 17.

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Resilience and Belief

Resilience is a quality ascribed to children who flourish despite difficult circumstances. It's an actual health term, and resilience is more important than people could have imagined. It seems to be the one quality that distinguishes those who crumble, and those who keep holding on for a brighter tomorrow.

I think there also has to be a belief that things just have to get better, and to believe it enough to work at it. Wholeheartedly. Unfortunately, this quality often seems to be perceived by others as being strong, as if it's an inherent quality, when in reality it's just a tenacity to not give up, to not give in, to keep putting one foot in front of the other - to do the actual work of whatever is desired. It's not that it's so much easier for those people, or that they're so much stronger, they just want it (whatever "it" is) and they are willing to work for it. They put in the hours, in the uncomfortable situations, to make something different happen.

I was listening to a Radio Diary today by Claressa Shields, who was the breakout star boxer at the Olympic trials recently. The story captures some of the difficulty of the 16 years of her life from a missing mother, to a father who ends up in jail, to sleeping on her aunt's couch. At the end of her story she says, "I always knew I'd be somebody. I just didn't know who."

I find that incredibly haunting. And a real glimpse at the mindset of a young woman who will make a different kind of life for herself than people might think possible looking at her circumstances.

"I always knew I'd be somebody. I just didn't know who," is a phrase that is going to stay with me. Absolutely brilliant, haunting, and true.

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Happy Easter

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Does Architecture Affect Our Adulthood

My friend, Teresa, and I were leaving the Eisenhower Center at dusk recently and while I was taking some photographs she was studying the house across the commons. When I turned to see what she was looking at, she said something I'm still thinking about.

"Look at that house," she said, "It's solid. It's square. On a good foundation. And the boy who grew up in it became president. I wonder how the architecture of the house where we grow up affects who we become?"

I'm not sure of the answer, but I know that's a very wise observation. And a very good question. If only I had an answer.
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Taste of Home Cooking Show with Guy Klinzing

Today I helped with the Taste of Home Cooking Show in Hutchinson, Kansas. We do the show in the sports arena, with a makeshift kitchen. This is a snapshot from backstage at the start of the day. It's amazing what you can do with enough organization and enough people.

We come in the morning and prep everything and make the dish to show. We chop, package, saute, measure and do anything we can to make it go smoothly when the show is actually happening on stage. Everything is very organized with detailed instructions for us to follow.

Then we come back in the evening and help out on stage, bringing whatever he needs to make the recipe in front of the audience.




The host from Taste of Home was Guy Klinzing. He was here last year, too, and we all love him. He's really delightful to work with - very pleasant, kind, helpful and encouraging.



My recipe today was an asparagus strudel with filo pastry. He is always good about having everyone gather around when he's working with something unusual like filo dough so everyone can learn something about it. I had worked with it before, but picked up a couple of tips today.




I didn't get to taste it, but it was sure pretty when it was done! We had some filling left and we all took some home to try out, so I can report back, but it smelled heavenly and looked wonderful.



Guy is a great entertainer. Literally - he's an actor, who also happens to know cooking How fun is that? He gets the crowd up on their feet at various times during the show.



Tonight he had them doing a modified version of YMCA, only with "Taste of Home" as part of the song. The emcee was Bob Colladay, in the white shirt here. He's always great at playing along with anything and jumped right in.



It's a very tiring day - we start at 8:30 and today didn't finish the prep work until about 2 p.m., then had to be back at 5 and finished up about 11 tonight. This year the show has 10 recipes in, which seems like a lot, but I guess people are definitely getting their money's worth out of their ticket. It's interesting to see how the process works and I always enjoy doing it.
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Everything is a Gift

The last few days have included some wonderful things, some difficult things and some interesting things. I was reminded of this quote:

Everything is a gift of the universe -- even joy, anger, jealously, frustration, or separateness. Everything is perfect,  either for our growth or our enjoyment.

                       Ken Keyes Jr.

So many things to consider...

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Oregano and Friends

I have decided today that oregano is my new favorite plant. I went into my backyard today - otherwise known as the forest - and discovered that the oregano plant has spread. I didn't know they did that, but I'm quite happy about it. I now have clumps of oregano in three different places instead of one. This is fabulous. I didn't know it was "invasive," as people always say about mint, but perhaps it is. Regardless, I think it's wonderful.

Yesterday this nice couple I hired online came over and cleaned out my front flowerbed. I just knew I wouldn't really get it done, despite my efforts to believe otherwise. Today I spread mulch in it, which will hopefully keep the weeds down.

I am debating if I want to try and grow tomatoes and anything else this year. Last year I decided not to and it was a good thing because it was so hot and dry pretty much everything withered and died. I was such a wimp last year I pretty much just went from the air conditioned house to the air conditioned car and never lingered between them. As a result I lost some perennials, I think. But, it just couldn't be helped. I didn't have it in me to be outside more than the few minutes going to and from the car every day. We'll see what comes up as time goes on.

The oregano, mint and sage are up in the backyard, as well as some borage. I'm not sure it should be up, since we're still a couple of weeks away from our frost-free date. By the way, "frost-free" means it's a 50/50 chance it will not frost again - not that all is clear. Regardless, things are up and flourishing. My rose bush in front has multiple blooms on it.

It boils down to I'm trying to guess what the summer will be like. I started to fear August by early January. Our winter was so mild I never even wore my heavy coat. Last night I took it back upstairs and hung it in the closet. Thirty degrees above normal is great when normal is 20, it won't be so great if that happens when normal is 95.

I'm feeling the urge to start some seeds of flowers to plant. Although I'm a month later than I would usually be with that, they'd still have time to get a head start before being put outside. I'd like some cosmos, I think. I started a bunch from seed in 2009 and loved them. They might be a good thing to have in the front flowerbed. They are so bright and pretty - and they hold up well when cut, too.

I've also decided I'm putting some herbs in front - at least one basil and three rosemary plants. I might as well have some in the front and back. We'll see what I really get done. I always have fabulous plans. I don't always have fabulous follow-through.

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Kentucky Wildcats Win

The Kentucky Wildcats won the NCAA National Championship tonight. Being an alum, I was thrilled by this news. But, the fact that I live in Kansas - and they won against the KU Jayhawks - caused some difficulty.

I decided to keep my thoughts to myself until after the game. Over the last couple of days I saw much nastiness on my Facebook wall from Kansas fans directed toward the Kentucky team. I said nothing.

Tonight after the final buzzer I posted a congratulatory note, wanting to share my joy with other Kentucky fans. Some Kansas fans who know I went to UK sent congratulatory notes and nice comments to me, which was great. But, of course, someone had to comment that I should move to Kentucky.

It reminded me why I don't get involved in sports very much - it does not bring out the best in people. I said nothing negative about the Kansas team before, during or after. You don't end up in the final game without being an excellent team, and it's impossible to be an excellent team without fine young men as part of it.

Why can't we all just be nice?

On the upside, I connected with another Kentucky fan. So, there you go.

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National Weather Service New Warnings

The National Weather Service is changing the language for storm warnings to include things like "hazard," and to focus on what the impact of the storm will be. Five offices in Kansas and Missouri will be the test cases.

Having lived in Kansas for a long time now, I've heard more than a couple of storm warnings. And, it's true that people don't take them seriously. But it's not because of the language of the storm warnings.

Do you remember that old tale about the "Boy Who Cried Wolf?" Well, this is a real-life version of it.

If you tell us to go to the basement 50 times and all that ever happens is some rain, we eventually think you're just talking to hear yourself. After the third or fourth time we run to the basement to take cover from what turns out to be a spring shower, it gets hard to believe you.

So, will we pay attention if you tell us town will be unrecognizeable after this storm? Absolutely. The first time. But, if you're wrong, and we all hope you are - the next time you tell us that we're going to believe you a little less. It's not that we think you are willingly leading us astray, but it's human nature to question the veracity of something that has been proven to be untrue.

All of this said, the reason so many people survived the Greensburg tornado was that they used the term "Tornado Emergency" for the first time. Thank goodness someone made that decision. They are responsible for saving many lives. Many, many lives.

I welcome the change, but there are some bigger issues here.

• You have to use these things only when it's truly the situation. If you're casual with them, we will be too.
• You have to do some "reverse PR" and make us understand your prediction ability isn't that great. We know it's not through our own experience, but you have to admit it so we're all on the same page. Maybe a little education on the "butterfly effect" is needed.
• You have to teach weather anchors and reporters to be less excited over impending bad weather. The excited tone in their voices, the obvious thrills they're getting, only make us want the same thing. It makes us go out to the porch instead of down to the basement. By the way, in case you never thought of it, showing and printing our storm photos only encourages that as well. 

All of this said, I hope I never hear any of the new terminology in a real situation, but I do think it's a great idea to change it. I just think they need to address some of the underlying issues in addition.

The Washington Post has a story that illustrates the point: http://www.washingtonpost.com/national/at-a-glance-new-look-tornado-warnings-from-national-weather-service/2012/03/31/gIQAbYQnnS_story.html

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Quote of the Day

“I do not trust people who don't love themselves and yet tell me, 'I love you.' There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” 

                          --- Maya Angelou

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Focus on the Positive to be Happier

"Neurons that fire together wire together," is a phrase often heard in neuroscience circles. I think it was first used in the 1940s by Donald Hebb. Recently it was repeated in the book, "Buddha's Brain."

What it means in a practical sense is that we can change the physiology of our brains. When we develop new patterns of thought, our brains respond.

When we were fighting for our lives against lions and tigers, it was a good idea to pay attention to "bad" things that caused us stress. That paranoia was a life-saver. Literally. But it leads to us having what's known as "negativity bias," which is the reason we fixate on the one negative thing mentioned in our performance review instead of the 22 positive things.

We're wired to have intense reactions to negative things. They leave stronger impressions. But in today's world, instead of avoiding a big cat intent on eating our hearts out, we're most likely to only need to fend off the gossipy woman down the hall. Times change, huh? Now, our tendency to focus on the negative could be considered hyper-sensitive.

So, we can train our brains to be more alert to good news instead of focusing on the bad news. When something positive comes along, linger on it for at least a few seconds - 10 or more. Savor it. If you do it multiple times a day, your brain will respond, and you will feel a true emotional shift - because neurons that fire together wire together.

Happiness researchers know this is one of the things happy people do naturally, but anyone can learn. Focus on the positive.

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Lessons Come in All Forms - Including Designer Handbags

In my usual rounds of the thrift stores today I ran across this little beauty. I was instantly attracted to its cool retro stripe vibe. When I picked it up I saw the "Kate Spade" tag. I own no designer anythings, but even I know Kate Spade handbags are a big deal.

So, $8 later I walked out with my great purchase. I put a photo on Facebook, to share my happiness, still loving its stripey goodness.

A few hours afterward, I carried it to dinner. And I discovered something either I had instinctively known but ignored, or that I had never known - I'm not cut out for this. I can't handle the pressure.

My purses come from Target or Kohl's, cost less than $30 - preferably much less - and can withstand some abuse. I carry everything from magazines to cans of pop in my purse. Ink pens rattle around with notebooks. Rechargeable batteries and coins make the purses heavier than they need to be. 

One can't toss around a Kate Spade handbag. It's just wrong. It's not that I have much money invested in it, but it's that someone, some where, would love to have it and it's wrong for me to ruin it with my less-than-sophisticated ways.

I want to be the sort of woman who carries designer bags. That would imply a sense of style. Unfortunately, I am not that sort of woman. And my "style" is a gaudy costume jewelry pin on a $20 blouse with some jeans. I'm not exactly the designer handbag type. 

So, while I am still pleased with my purchase, and I still love its stripey goodness, it's most likely bound for ebay. It should be owned by someone who will not only appreciate its stripey goodness, but who will also give it the extra love and care it deserves. 

And I'd best do it quickly before I let an ink pen explode in it, spill hand lotion on it, or splatter it with barbecue sauce at Roy's.

Update: My friend, Deb, loves Kate Spade and will be the recipient of the bag. When I offered it to her, she mentioned she even has some extra Kate Spade dust bags. The fact that I don't even know what that is further illustrates that the bag belongs with her instead of with me. If it were a puppy, PETA would have wrested it from me long before now!

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Cathedral of the Plains in Victoria, Kansas

I stopped in Victoria, Kansas, the other day and visited the Cathedral of the Plains. I almost always stop there when I'm traveling through. There are some places you know are holy ground, and this is one of them.





I loved the way the light was falling across these pews. This church has some amazing stained glass. Stained glass has been used for centuries to help religious leaders tell the stories of the Bible.





Like most Catholic Churches, this one also has some beautiful statuary. If you're anywhere near Victoria, it's well worth a stop.















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Quote of the Day

“Let us so live

that when we come to die

even the undertaker will be sorry.” 

                                             Mark Twain

Each of us will meet our end at some point. When I visit a cemetery, I realize that all of those people, from all of those decades before me, went through their lives with that understanding.

However, like most of us, they probably didn't internalize it. It was just a fact, but not something they believed at their cores. Most of them probably didn't wake up on the day chiseled in that stone knowing it was their last one. They met their fates through accidents and illnesses, not seeing them coming, or believing there would be a recuperation.

I've always been hyper-aware of the fragility of life. So much to do in this lifetime...

Until I pulled these photos up tonight, to choose one for this post, I hadn't noticed the bluebird on top of the headstone. I took a series of these photos in Kentucky at an old cemetery - more for the daffodils than anything else. Tonight I noticed the bluebird and couldn't resist using this photo.

Bluebirds are considered a good omen, indicating contentment, hope and - of course - the bluebird of happiness. Maybe he's telling me I'll get time to do all the things I want to do in this lifetime.

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Highway 183, projects and sleep

I have been on the road for a couple of days. I went to Phillipsburg, Kansas, to teach social media to a great group of folks. I drove out on Friday, and spent Saturday with them. I enjoy doing these sorts of things, so always love it when the opportunity presents itself.

There's a magic to me in the open road. On a trip of sufficient length I can disengage my brain a little bit and let it float free. That's when I come up with interesting projects, and coalesce ideas from various sources into something new.

This trip wasn't quite long enough, and had too many stops along the way to get into that zone. I feel the urge for one of those longer trips soon. It's not just my imagination, science tells us that, indeed, activities like driving allow us to access parts of the brain that are less readily available to us. There are other ways to get them engaged, too, and I think I need to be more diligent about doing that. I feel a bit scattered.



It seems I keep making one list after another and crossing things off, only to replace them with other things. Yet, projects around my house remain in limbo. I'm not sure how to find more hours in the day. I need more time for reading, writing, painting and other creative pursuits. I also need to spend some time just getting my house in order and fully organized.

Plus, I keep thinking of creative projects I'd like to accomplish. It seems the list grows and grows.

I have a little car issue I'm hoping to get taken care of tomorrow. This on the heels of what could have been a very major car issue last weekend. Lets just say that the fact that I'm still here on the planet is a testament to the fact that I lead a charmed existence!

Well, I suppose I should get some sleep. It's after 1 a.m. Ironically, I'm listening to a recorded TV show about sleep deprivation. Frankly, I'm tired of hearing about how we're supposed to be unconscious for a third of our lives. I can't even get everything done now that I want to do. How can I possibly do it if I spend more hours not doing anything every day?

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Optical Illusions

Am I the only one who sees giant lips puckered up in the clouds, about to kiss the grain bin? Humor me, okay?

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Vintage Hankie

A pretty little hankie with one of my favorite flowers and one of my favorite languages.

How can you not love that?

A dollar, in case you were wondering... worth every penny.

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Imagine: How Creativity Works by Jonah Lehrer

"Imagine: How Creativity Works" by Jonah Lehrer is on my "must read" list for the near future.

It was mentioned tonight by a friend. Right after that, I logged onto Twitter and saw a tweet from "The Economist" about it. Obviously, it is a book I need to read.

My friend heard him speak at a conference and shared some of the ideas with us.

One is that brainstorming is incredibly ineffective as a way to generate creative thought. What does work is challenging the idea during brainstorming so people have to clarify it.

Another thing that helps is being exposed to people outside your area of expertise. That's why Steve Jobs put the bathrooms in a central location so people from different departments had to interact.

As is always the case, persistence and hardwork often lead to the breakthrough moments.


Some of the ideas include:

• People's creative problem solving is improved by:
• Being in a blue room 
• Being sleepy
• Watching a comedy video before trying
• Being told the puzzle they're working on is from somewhere else
• By having lived in another culture

I'll have more to say once I've actually read the book, I'm sure!

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